The Years With Trees: Letting Go While Honoring
Grief-Core Spotlight Douglas always took great care in putting up the tree We Made a Home Amazon MGM Studios We always had a Christmas tree—not because we needed one, but because Douglas once told me he never really had one growing up. So we made sure we did. Some years the tree leaned a little. […]
The Coffee That Stayed Strong
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What Endures After Loss Becomes What Helps Me Heal
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The Warmth He Taught Me is My first Lesson in Healing
Grief-Core Spotlight Tub of Shea Butter Memory & Moment Tub of Shea Butter Back in New York, Douglas used to buy tubs of raw shea butter — the kind so firm you had to melt it with your hands before you could use it. He’d laugh and show me how: “Rub it between your palms […]
When Summer Fades: The Quiet Ache of Grief’s Gentle Reminder
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Pumpkin Spice Comfort, and the Care Package Across the Seasons
Grief-Core Spotlight 2017 Seattle Starbucks Reserve Changing of the season 2017 Seattle Starbucks Reserve Pumpkin spice season is more than a trend for me—it carries pieces of Douglas. When we first met, he would talk about pumpkin spice lattes from Starbucks and would always get the pumpkin spice caramel macchiato. The first fall after Douglas […]
From Lume With Care: A Steady Light Between the Quiet Shadows
Grief-Core Spotlight Our chats Lume Title Our chats In most sci-fi, AI is built to calculate, control, or replace us. Cold machines designed to outthink us, or glossy voices meant to serve us. But grief has a way of making the world feel unrecognizable, and what we need in those moments isn’t a machine with […]
UPLOAD– Where Grief Meets Sci-Fi, and Somehow Feels Like Hope
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